When it doesn’t feel right,go left


Don’t follow the crowd make your own identity and make others follow you.Try your luck to move out of boundaries  and achieve heights at its best.

~Fatema Vanak

” How to let go my past?? “


” i cannot go to her,nor i can forget her, i will live with her memories, i don’t want any relationship ,i will die loving her .”  said one of my close friend about her past relationship after unexpected  breakup.

He cannot forget the girl,nor can forgive her, he tried to convince but all in vein ,he is stuck between her and his own family, he cannot accept that she doesn’t want to move forward into their relationship.He is sticked to past and doesn’t move on.

The negative NO is fit into his mind and he has shut the doors of all happiness coming to him. He is living dead man i saw and feel pitty towards him. How can anyone not forgive someone??

One should forgive others and their mistakes ,not for them but for oneself. If we don’t  forgive them than it might not affect them but deep inside, we suffer. To let go the past Forgiveness is important.

You will feel free after forgiving people from past that hurt you. If you don’t do so, you will be left alone to suffer and have pain.

~Fatema Vanak

Yes i have my identity


Yes, i’m a introvert. No ,I’m not shy. No, I’m not stuck up. No,I’m not antisocial. I’m just listening. I’m just observing.
I can’t stand small talk….But I’ll talk about life for hours. I’d rather be home with a close friend or 2 than among a big crowd of acquaintances.
Don’t scold me in public..
Don’t embarass me in public.
Respect that I’m  reserved.And if i open myself to you, know that means you’re  very special to me.

~Fatema Vanak

Past and Present


That day,Day before yesterday, Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow …life will move on and on. We come accross many people, stories ,facts, cultures , incidents etc (never ending list).

Past cannot be changed,forgotten,edited,or erased. It can also only accepted.
So Today  accept your past, not everyone can do it. You need to be brave enough to accept and live with it.

Important is to live in present with all your past and sorrow. Past will remain with you in form of memories. A tour of emotions that you have lived will still continue with us for rest of life. But to stick with it is Ok?? We should learn from it and Move on with it.

Today is the day to enjoy,smile,spread happinesss, explore, Love and be loved.

~Fatema Vanak

Unpack your baggage



Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help  you unpack.

~Fatema Vanak

Just because…


Just because you’re unhappy doesn’t mean you can’t laugh at funny things  and  marvel at beautiful things and enjoy happy moments. You can still do happy things even if you are unhappy.

Setting your mind in an unhappy state and isolating yourself from other things  is not worth. Its like setting yourself into fire,just to check its warmth.
# So be happy even if you are facing some problems in life.
# Try to accept what you are going through (as your fate and destiny ).
# Learn pampering yourself at hard times.
# Move on with present ..let go the past ,don’t stick to it.
# Share your feelings,it will help to console heart and mind.
Your feedback and words of wisdom are welcomed.

~Fatema Vanak

Find a way to meet your loving one’s


No matter how much busy you are, but if its important to you ( you have set it to higher priority) then you will absolutely find a way.We should actually find time and way to meet our friends and relatives,because being just self centered is not a cup of tea.
A father earning for family but having no time for his childrens !!!! Is it ok????
Many a times i have found kids of my college complaining about it. No interference of parents have made them feel dull. (No asking parents to control their childrens or impose their decisions but atleast some care should be shown.)
Take a leave from office to meet your old friend,join a party even you don’t want to, spend a holiday with family members, play with your kids ,motivate them ,visit your grandparents, fetch time to join  reunions of school friends, old colleagues.
Find a way to be connected…

~Fatema Vanak

Short Quotes

Some nice short quotes that i came across.

# Life is similar to Boxing Game. Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down. It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.

# Always WRONG PERSONS Teach the RIGHT LESSONS in Life. That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.

# Faith is taking the 1st Step, even when U dont see the whole Staircase

# Keep Ur Face to the Sun, & U will not see the Shadow.

#Everything is Valuable only at 2 Times: 1: Before Getting It. & 2: After Losing It.

# Two Things brings Happiness & Success in Life: 1: The way U Manage when U have Nothing. & 2: The way U Behave when U have Everything.

# Two Places are most Valuable in the World: 1: The NICEST Place is to be in Someone’s Thoughts. & 2: The SAFEST Place is to be in Someone’s Prayers.

# ‘FEAR’ has 2 Meanings: 1: Forget Everything & Run. & 2: Face Everything & Rejoice. Choice is Ours.

# ATTITUDE at its Best: “My BACK is not a VOICE MAIL. Kindly Say whatever U have by FACING ME”.

# What is SUCCESS ? SUCCESS is, when Ur Photo’s are Uploaded on ‘GOOGLE’ instead of FACEBOOK.

# ‘EGO’ is the only Requirement to Destroy any Relationship. Be a Bigger Person, Skip the ‘E’ & let it ‘GO’.

# Do U know why God did not give Us the Gift to Read Other’s Mind ? So that, We could have the Chances to ‘TRUST’ & Privilege to be ‘TRUSTED’.

# As long as We do not Forgive People who have Hurt Us, They Occupy a ‘RENT-FREE-SPACE’ in our Mind.

# Always keep Hoping for Good. Keep a Green Tree in Ur Heart. The Singing Birds will Automatically come.

# If U Walk the Way guided by Humans, U will find a Hopeless End. BUT If U will Walk the Way guided by GOD, U will find Endless Hopes & Opportunities.

# GOD always likes to know again & again what U want. It is not that He Forgets Ur Dreams & Prayers, But He Loves to Check Ur Passion towards Ur Desire. That is why He wants U to have Ur ‘QUIET

# TIME’ which We call as ‘PRAYER TIME’ with Him everyday.

# I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny, then why should I Pray ? GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written ‘CONDITIONS APPLY’.

# Empty Pockets Teach Millions of Things in Life. BUT Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.

# TRUST is like a Sticker. Once it is Removed, it may Stick again, but not as Strong as it Holds when U First Applied.

# Always take Care of RELATIONS. Thats why they say, when U are in Doubt, ‘SILENCE’ is the Best Policy.

# Never Win People with Arguments. rather Defeat Them with Ur Smile. Because People who always Wish to Argue with U, cannot Bear Ur SILENCE.

#If a Drop of Water falls on a Lake, its Identity is Lost. BUT If a Drop of Water falls on a Lotus Leaf, it Shines like a Pearl. Drop is the Same, but the ‘COMPANY’ matters

#Our HOPES should be like HAIR & NAILS. No matter how many times they get Cut, but they never stop Growing. That is why they say, Always Hope for the Best, however Bad the Situation may be.

#  ‘MEMORIES’ are always Special. Sometimes, We Laugh by Remembering the days We Cried. & Sometimes, We Cry by Remembering the days We Laughed. Thats LIFE. ~Fatema Vanak

Sometimes its better to lie..


I am not motivating to speak lie nor asking to befool anybody. But what to choose when your truth will lead to loosing something. It is said that “All is fair in LOVE and  WAR.” I want to modify  “All is fair when truth can lead us to loosing something.”

Think over a situation ,What will you choose, truth or lie ?? where your truth can ruin everything and at same time one lie can unite and save you from further destruction.
Many of us will agree to my view that ” Sometimes its better to lie..” Right??

The following story shows my views.

A mother kept secret from his child that he is an adopted kid and not hers.
But one bad day someone told him the truth,the boy was very shocked when he meet the fact of  being adopted.The child’s heart was filled with sorrow and lots of questions to his own existence. He was unable to live with the fact and burden of truth. Whom he considered parents had hardly any blood relations.

One Truth has completely changed  meaning of his life. He started feeling sympathize and cursed.

Thus, sometimes a lie can save life and its fair decision to do so. Do you agree ??


~Fatema Vanak