Love to give, not take..

You’re hurt by only those whom you Love. A small act of them annoys you,hurts you. Someone who is indifferent,doesn’t smile at you,it doesn’t bother you so much. But someone whom you Love, they don’t smile, or they didn’t give enough attention to you ,you get hurt.
Then you go,” ohhhh,ohhh,ohh.” Your mind goes like that.All complaints it takes and stores up and creates an illusion, “i am bad.”Either you blame yourself or you blame other person.So either you are in misery or you make that other person miserable and guilty and all this stuff.
This is too common.But then there is another stage.

When love matures,it becomes surrender. Surrender is a divine Love,Mature Love. “What is it that you want? Let me be useful to you.Let me be like a tree,and you come and have shade under me. I am here to give you joy and happiness. And in your happiness, i find happiness. “That is surrender. And surrender is the most beautiful thing that can happen to a human being.
And the moment that surrender has happened in you, you have reached the other shore. And in that state,there is so much fulfillment. That is prosperity

Love and affection


There was a couple. Both husband and wife loved each other and   cared for each other. But their financial status  was poor. Once wife said to husband ” God has gifted me such good long hair ,but no hair clips  to decorate it. Bring some clips for my hairs.”
Husband replied to it ” Oh dear you are worried about hair clips, the belt of my watch is broken since many days i have no penny to take new.”
Husband after his return from work in evening sold his watch which was without belts. From this amount he purchased some  fine hair clips for her wife.
Went home. He opened the door of house and went into shock. Wife asked  ” why are you staring at me?”. Husband said ” Where are your long hairs?”.   Wife replied ” I had cut my hair and sold it. From this amount i had brought nice belt for your watch.” Husband kept the hair clips on wife’s hand and wife kept the watch belt onto his hands.
Both hugged each other.

Sometimes all you need is love and affection. To maintain and grow in relationships, what other person does for you is not important,what i can do is important.Think on it. Love is all about giving not taking.

~Fatema Vanak

You need to be patience

How long can you wait?
To be a winner how many efforts will you put in,after a series of failure ? How long can you keep yourself  calm and cool and let it go. How much ignorance?

Nothing happens without effort.
You need to b patience.
You have to have faith.
And for that you have to break down the barriers of prejudice, which require courage.
To have courage you must conquer your fears.

Its a difficult task to be patience, atleast not a cup of tea for all the people around. A lot of calmness and patience is required to keep the mind focused on one thing. We humans have a tendencies to easily get directed to other catchy things. To be focused and working hard for it, is tough  assignment.

A strong burning desire is not enough, one must keep his soul into it. A thought that ” i will complete,whatever it may cost me. ” Any external nor internal desire should be affected once a decision is been taken to be a winner. Simply Try ,try,try ..multiple times, to be a hero from zero. During the journey you may come across ups and down, PATIENCE  is all you need. Never quit. You will definitely find a way.


After the autumn flowers will again  blossom.

A couple was going through financial crises , no good salary and lots of burden and responsibilities. But they keep faith, courage,patience that we will move out and prosper one day. Both kept moving bravely. Finally their dreams got wings and  got success.

Keep moving you will find a way ahead.

~Fatema Vanak

Happy new year


Happy new year to all my followers and friends.
May this year brings all the light and dreams for your success in life.

~Fatema Vanak

Peace of Mind

This below story tells us about PEACE OF MIND


Once Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers.
While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake.”
The disciple walked up to the lake.
At that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake.

As a result, the water became very muddy & turbid.
The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?”
So he came back & told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”
After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back
to the lake.
The disciple went back, &  found that the water was still muddy.
He returned & informed Buddha about the same.
After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.
This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, & the water was clean & clear.
So he collected some water in a pot & brought it to Buddha.
Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple & said, “See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be, & the mud settled down on its own, & you have clear water.”
Your mind is like that too ! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own.
You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down.
It will happen. It is effortless.”
Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job, it is an effortless process.

~Fatema Vanak

Caught by Insecurities?????

Every day a new thought generates in our mind.We think of various conditions, situation happened  over past,present ane even future. When it comes to future ,it comes with Insecurities & Fears.

What,when,why,how life may change for us is unknown.. And at this point we get caught in the forest of insecurities.( The insurance  companies works on  principle of fear and insecurity. They generate insecurities in our mind to join them.)


Not Many people can accept what comes to them in life. Every unplanned action when comes to reality it brings  insecurities. Insecurities for Future events is seen high among people. As said “Fear is the biggest enemy, which stops you to go ahead.”

# After one failure ,
# after every unexpected  outcome,
# before planning for important events in life (including  marriage and  other stuff ) ,
# before even setting a goal.
# A parent worried about his child’s future.
# A youngsters worried about his college,job.
People pass with bundles of thoughts,some positive,some negative.
Positive are always welcomed but negative brings fears and insecurities.

To overcome this fears one should ACCEPT
# All happens for good.
#  A person must ultimately embrance patience,either willingly or otherwise.
# Change is certain,wait, it is always for good.
# You deserve more and your desires may be less,so god has to plan for you.
# Ultimately don’t think much and enjoy each and every moment you have get in your life.

~Fatema Vanak

A smile of the day

As a daily routinue i was going to work on my two wheeler. On my way there was a traffic signal on intersection of four roads. I had to wait for signal to turn green. Meanwhile on left side of signal  i saw Maruti Zen in which a man was seated on driving seat , due to sunlight i could just see his clothing , his dressing sense looked like he must be an officer of higher designation. I couldn’t clearly see his face. My mind got sticked to this man and i became  eager to see his face ,i wanted to see his facial expressions and his looks.

For signal to turn green 12 seconds were remaining. I closed my eyes and  wished “God i want to have a glimpse of this man.”   As soon as i open my eyes i saw the man  opening the car window and he looked at me. He looked cool, a man in his twenties. He smiled. Yes !!! he actually gave a smile. The Smile made my day.



Don’t know how but really that stranger whom i shall never meet again left me wid a memorable smile to cherish.

“A Smile is the prettiest thing you can ever wear”

While walking on streets or passing by we can share our Smile, who knows that little Smile can make a difference to others.

~Fatema Vanak

If you ever fall in Love

If you ever fall in LOVE…

# Fall in Love with someone who wants to know your favorite color and just how you like your coffee.
# Fall in Love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would do absolutely anything to hear it.
# Fall in Love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heart beat.
# Fall in Love with someone who kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone they know.
# Fall in Love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you.
# Fall in Love with someone who makes you question why you were afraid to fall in love for first place.
# Fall in Love with someone who falls in LOVE with your faults and thinks you are perfect just they way you are.
# Fall in Love with someone who thinks that you are the ONE they would love to wake up to each day.

~Fatema Vanak

When it doesn’t feel right,go left


Don’t follow the crowd make your own identity and make others follow you.Try your luck to move out of boundaries  and achieve heights at its best.

~Fatema Vanak

” How to let go my past?? “


” i cannot go to her,nor i can forget her, i will live with her memories, i don’t want any relationship ,i will die loving her .”  said one of my close friend about her past relationship after unexpected  breakup.

He cannot forget the girl,nor can forgive her, he tried to convince but all in vein ,he is stuck between her and his own family, he cannot accept that she doesn’t want to move forward into their relationship.He is sticked to past and doesn’t move on.

The negative NO is fit into his mind and he has shut the doors of all happiness coming to him. He is living dead man i saw and feel pitty towards him. How can anyone not forgive someone??

One should forgive others and their mistakes ,not for them but for oneself. If we don’t  forgive them than it might not affect them but deep inside, we suffer. To let go the past Forgiveness is important.

You will feel free after forgiving people from past that hurt you. If you don’t do so, you will be left alone to suffer and have pain.

~Fatema Vanak