Find a way to meet your loving one’s


No matter how much busy you are, but if its important to you ( you have set it to higher priority) then you will absolutely find a way.We should actually find time and way to meet our friends and relatives,because being just self centered is not a cup of tea.
A father earning for family but having no time for his childrens !!!! Is it ok????
Many a times i have found kids of my college complaining about it. No interference of parents have made them feel dull. (No asking parents to control their childrens or impose their decisions but atleast some care should be shown.)
Take a leave from office to meet your old friend,join a party even you don’t want to, spend a holiday with family members, play with your kids ,motivate them ,visit your grandparents, fetch time to join  reunions of school friends, old colleagues.
Find a way to be connected…

~Fatema Vanak

Short Quotes

Some nice short quotes that i came across.

# Life is similar to Boxing Game. Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down. It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.

# Always WRONG PERSONS Teach the RIGHT LESSONS in Life. That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.

# Faith is taking the 1st Step, even when U dont see the whole Staircase

# Keep Ur Face to the Sun, & U will not see the Shadow.

#Everything is Valuable only at 2 Times: 1: Before Getting It. & 2: After Losing It.

# Two Things brings Happiness & Success in Life: 1: The way U Manage when U have Nothing. & 2: The way U Behave when U have Everything.

# Two Places are most Valuable in the World: 1: The NICEST Place is to be in Someone’s Thoughts. & 2: The SAFEST Place is to be in Someone’s Prayers.

# ‘FEAR’ has 2 Meanings: 1: Forget Everything & Run. & 2: Face Everything & Rejoice. Choice is Ours.

# ATTITUDE at its Best: “My BACK is not a VOICE MAIL. Kindly Say whatever U have by FACING ME”.

# What is SUCCESS ? SUCCESS is, when Ur Photo’s are Uploaded on ‘GOOGLE’ instead of FACEBOOK.

# ‘EGO’ is the only Requirement to Destroy any Relationship. Be a Bigger Person, Skip the ‘E’ & let it ‘GO’.

# Do U know why God did not give Us the Gift to Read Other’s Mind ? So that, We could have the Chances to ‘TRUST’ & Privilege to be ‘TRUSTED’.

# As long as We do not Forgive People who have Hurt Us, They Occupy a ‘RENT-FREE-SPACE’ in our Mind.

# Always keep Hoping for Good. Keep a Green Tree in Ur Heart. The Singing Birds will Automatically come.

# If U Walk the Way guided by Humans, U will find a Hopeless End. BUT If U will Walk the Way guided by GOD, U will find Endless Hopes & Opportunities.

# GOD always likes to know again & again what U want. It is not that He Forgets Ur Dreams & Prayers, But He Loves to Check Ur Passion towards Ur Desire. That is why He wants U to have Ur ‘QUIET

# TIME’ which We call as ‘PRAYER TIME’ with Him everyday.

# I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny, then why should I Pray ? GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written ‘CONDITIONS APPLY’.

# Empty Pockets Teach Millions of Things in Life. BUT Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.

# TRUST is like a Sticker. Once it is Removed, it may Stick again, but not as Strong as it Holds when U First Applied.

# Always take Care of RELATIONS. Thats why they say, when U are in Doubt, ‘SILENCE’ is the Best Policy.

# Never Win People with Arguments. rather Defeat Them with Ur Smile. Because People who always Wish to Argue with U, cannot Bear Ur SILENCE.

#If a Drop of Water falls on a Lake, its Identity is Lost. BUT If a Drop of Water falls on a Lotus Leaf, it Shines like a Pearl. Drop is the Same, but the ‘COMPANY’ matters

#Our HOPES should be like HAIR & NAILS. No matter how many times they get Cut, but they never stop Growing. That is why they say, Always Hope for the Best, however Bad the Situation may be.

#  ‘MEMORIES’ are always Special. Sometimes, We Laugh by Remembering the days We Cried. & Sometimes, We Cry by Remembering the days We Laughed. Thats LIFE. ~Fatema Vanak

Sometimes its better to lie..


I am not motivating to speak lie nor asking to befool anybody. But what to choose when your truth will lead to loosing something. It is said that “All is fair in LOVE and  WAR.” I want to modify  “All is fair when truth can lead us to loosing something.”

Think over a situation ,What will you choose, truth or lie ?? where your truth can ruin everything and at same time one lie can unite and save you from further destruction.
Many of us will agree to my view that ” Sometimes its better to lie..” Right??

The following story shows my views.

A mother kept secret from his child that he is an adopted kid and not hers.
But one bad day someone told him the truth,the boy was very shocked when he meet the fact of  being adopted.The child’s heart was filled with sorrow and lots of questions to his own existence. He was unable to live with the fact and burden of truth. Whom he considered parents had hardly any blood relations.

One Truth has completely changed  meaning of his life. He started feeling sympathize and cursed.

Thus, sometimes a lie can save life and its fair decision to do so. Do you agree ??


~Fatema Vanak

To blame is Ok….??


Has similar dialogues been heard by you at some point of time?  

Boy: it’s because of the other guy,I made the mistake.I took his opinion. Not my fault

Lady: It’s not my fault,the stupid alarm did not rang and I am late.

Husband : I couldn’t come because of traffic .Its not my fault.

Child: My mom forgot to remind me my homework. Its not my fault.

We keep blaming others. We don’t show maturity to really accept and move  with it. Actually people say that if we blame others for our mistakes, we feel relaxed. Does this give any sense to be relaxed??

When you have conflict with people you LOVE most you tend to blame them. Look  within. It is your selfishness that is the cause. You expect people to  dance to your tune; you make demands and impose restrictions on them. This makes them want to break free.

 Love to be self-sufficient. Accept the fact that you are mistaken or guilty . Don’t blame. Be brave enough to atleast walk with your mistakes. 

Analyse your emotions and keep spreading fragrance. ..

imageThere was a man who always  remained happy. He shared smiles and waved other’s in very polite way. No lines of stress or tension ever covered his life. It’s not that he did not have any issues in his life. But he handled them all in very acceptable manner,even he considered  hard times as part of his life journey. He use to analyze situations and react accordingly, he never allowed situations to overload his life.

I meet him and I concluded

” Enjoy every emotions.Analyse your emotions and  control it, dont let them control you. Once you  do that you will be happy in sad mood also..because at that time you know what is your choice to be angry or be sad…not because  of other you  are in this mood. Very complex sentence but once you do this ,you will get to know how you can handle all situations and emotions  around you.”

Be blossemed like flowers…keep spreading fragrance

~Fatema Vanak

Can louder voices prove you RIGHT? ?



In the world, there exists not only good, sincere, honest and responsible people but also who are wicked, dishonest and highly unreasonable. No argument can convince them, no eloquence can persuade them and then you are compelled to defend yourself.  They may attack you without any good cause.
Where arguments go louder understand that they are wrong ,though they wants  to prove Right.

Here is a story telling same.
A meeting was held to discuss about an organization’s employee issues with head of organization. All issues faced by employers were presented to head. But the head was firm not to listen to employers point of view,  instead he started finding faults of employers and their work.
All employers protested to at least listen to them, but the head did not listen. Instead he turned tables on employers, started personal pointing to each for their work and said that he has issues with them. Head considered that his staff was lazy and he stated speaking in a louder tone to neglect the issues of his employees. Head tried hard with his harsh tone to prove himself RIGHT.

Will truth  remain behind doors for long ???
Can the louder tone suppress Truth???
Is it right to use power and position to show fake truths to world ???

Your feedback is welcomed, keep sharing  your words.
~ Fatema Vanak

Love is always the answer


“Love is always the answer”
I came across this quote , instantly giving me many answers to my self generated bunch of problems.( yes we do generate problems for self,though they’re not made for us)

Example:  I unnecessarily made assumptions about my friend that she is least concerned about our friendship,though i  keep trying to be friendly. But  then i  realized that i was wrong, she has faith in me and our friendship more than i thought.

Sometimes we get obessed with lots of unpredictable situations and work. We behave rudely, unable to handle them , hurting not only others but ourselves.
Sometimes only few words like love can reduce  your burden of problems.
I said to myself ” I need. To occupy my mind with just Love & nothing else, if i succeed i have all answers. Don‘t shift love & allow other thoughts to enter my mind and heart. Let the love rule my territory. “

Your words of wisdom and feedback are welcomed. Do contact me for further discussion.
~Fatema Vanak

We have a purpose to live.


Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny
# he has something to fulfill,
# some message to be delivered,
# some work has to be completed.
You are not here accidently,
You are here meaningfully,
There is a purpose behind you,
The world intends to do something through you.